Why are people so mean?

I have to tell you that in all the years I have been doing readings I am used to people crying at my table.  It used to be because they were grieving over the loss of a loved one which of course is beyond heartbreaking to me and completely understandable.  However, lately there is another reason why a lot of my clients are overcome with emotions.  Through their tears, hurt and disappointment they ask me the same question over and over…..why are people so mean?

nastyI wish I had an answer but I have to tell you honestly I don’t!  I can only share my personal experience and what I do to overcome what I call “the nasty people”.  Luckily it doesn’t happen very often but every now and again I get the “psychics are of the devil” email or the person with no life who feel entitled to tell me how I am going to “burn in hell for what I do”.  Now I have to tell you the old me would address these “nasty people”.  I would defend myself and explain what a good person I am.  I would go on to list all the good things I do, all the behind the scenes charity work and on and on. Then one day it hit me like a brick….everyone has the right to their opinion!  Yes, it is really that simple!  Everyone has a right to their opinion, even the “nasty people”.  I do not need to respond and I certainly do not need to be effected by these “nasty people”!

Now having said that I am not sure how bad your life is that you have nothing better to do then to send hate mail to someone you know nothing about but that being said let’s really look at what is going on here.  You have to take a step back and ask yourself a few important questions:

  • What kind of person actually feels better by making others feel bad?
  • How bad is someone’s life that they have nothing better to do then to spread anger?

And the most important questions:

  • Why do you care what a “nasty person” thinks?
  • Is this someone’s opinion that you really care about?
  • Do you feel so insecure that you allow a “nasty person” to define your self worth?

So you see in the end it is not really about what someone else says or does to you. In soulthe end it is about how your value yourself!  Do you feel good about yourself?  Do you choose to surround yourself with people who uplift your soul and make you feel good?  Do you believe that you deserve to be surrounded by awesome people? There are always going to be those “nasty people” who suffer from what I call the “entitlement disease”. They truly think they have the right to attack and hurt others.  Their lives are so miserable that the only joy they have is hurting others.  We need to send them healing energy and hope that they see the light but we do not need to allow them to effect us!

For me personally when I have a “nasty person” encounter I make it a point to go and read one of the beautiful cards or emails that I have received from an appreciative person that I have helped.  I DO NOT let “nasty people” rent space in my head.  So the next time someone hurts you, betrays you, turns of you or tries to destroy you remember……ask yourself the important questions!

PLEASE remember you are amazing and you do not need to defend or explain yourself to anyone!  You deserve to be surrounded by awesome, supportive, loving souls that remind you how wonderful it is to be a part of your life! You should never waste a tear over a “nasty person”!

celebrate