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One of the gifts I received for Christmas this year were two journals with a picture of Wonder Woman on the cover. The gifts were thoughtfully given to me by one of my clients who jokingly calls me “Wonder Woman”. The funny thing is I remember when I was younger, my sister and I would make the wonder woman headband and bracelets out of aluminum foil that we “borrowed” from the kitchen.  I have fond memories of spending hours trying to lasso the dog with the truth lasso! LOL There was always something magical about the idea about having super powers and using them to help people. I guess “Wonder Woman” was kind of my idol.  Now for me I do not really see myself as a “Wonder Woman”! I just think I always have a lot on my plate (like many of  you) and I just do what needs to be done (like many of you). I was not raised to believe in failure! I am sure you have heard me say a million times “Failure is NOT an option”!

Lately, I have had a lot of people asking me”what is different about me?  I seem annoyingly positive and upbeat:)  So what is the big secret?  I have learned the secret of wonder woman!  What is the secret you ask?  It is actually very simple:  Every now and again it is okay to take off the cape!  There are two kinds of people in the world the “DO’ers” (is that a word) and the “Just think about doing it”.  I have always been a Do IT type personality.  However, I have definitely learned over the last few years that NO ONE DOES IT ALONE!  Everyone needs a support system!  Everyone needs people who they look up to.  Everyone needs positive people in their lives.  Everyone, at one point or another, needs to reach out and except help.

We seem to live in a world that is constantly bombarding us with trauma and drama.  We are constantly being prepared for all of the horrible things that can happen to us.  But no one really teaches us how to be happy!  No one ever sits us down and says, “Listen here is the story….Life really sucks sometimes.  And when life sucks it is not a punishment.  And you are not the only one who goes through all of this crappy stuff.”  Wouldn’t it be nice if someone had given us the “How to Be Happy Manual”?  Well I don’t have time to write a manual at the moment so here are just some quick tips:

1.Take responsibility for your own life-don’t say your ex, your boss, your parents, etc are ruining your life.  The truth is you are the only one who can ruin your life.  You are the only one who can ALLOW the action of others to effect you.

2. Choose happiness over misery-everyday you have a choice to focus on the positive of the negative. Choose wisely.

3.Don’t rush-we are always trying to rush through our lives, especially when we are in a not so comfortable place.  It is during those times that you must remember “this too shall pass”.  After all nothing lasts forever.

4.Be kind to yourself-we are very nasty to ourselves!  Next time you are doing that negative self talk take a huge step back and ask yourself, “would I talk to my child or friend like this”.  I bet you wouldn’t!

5. Remember to remove the cape-most importantly remember that every now and again we all need to remove the super hero cape and take a break!  That is the perfect time to allow others to help, support and encourage us!  There is nothing wrong with taking sometime to recharge (just don’t take a lifetime).

So next time you are feeling overwhelmed and unfocused think about the “Secrets of Wonder Woman” and remember you to can take of the cape and regroup!  You do that and I can promise you happiness will follow!