The other side of the holidays

The holidays are a time of celebration and holiday cheer.  However, there is also another side of the holidays.  As a psychic medium I am well aware of the fact that the holidays are not a happy time for everyone.  In fact for many people it is the hardest time of the year.  Many people are facing their first holiday without someone they love.  I hear their stories.  I feel their pain.  I understand their absolute dread of facing the holiday season.

If you know someone who has lost a loved one, here are some things to keep in mind.  Please do NOT try to make them happy, tell them how to feel or tell them what they should do.  Instead ask them what they need.  If they want to talk about their loved one then allow them to do so.  If they don’t then don’t push the issue.  I have said this for 15 years and I will continue to say it…I could fill a room with 100 people who have all lost a loved one in the same way, all the same relationship (husband, wife, child) BUT no one can truly say “I know how you feel”.  After all there is only one of each of us.  While you may have suffered a similar loss no one can walk in your shoes.  So please don’t ever tell someone who lost someone that you know exactly how they feel.  Instead honor their emotions, allow them to grieve their loss and allow them to decide what they need in that moment.

If you are facing your first holiday without someone you love PLEASE PLEASE remember that your loved ones are always around you!  They want nothing more than for you to be happy!  They KNOW they will see you again and they DO NOT want you to suffer.  In all the years I have been communicating with those who have passed I have NEVER EVER had one person say, “You know since I passed my loved ones just seem to happy!”  NEVER!  On your worst day take a step back and think, if you were on the other side and your loved one was still here what would you want for them?  You would want them to be happy and living life to the fullest.  You would not want your passing to forever hault their life.  You would want to be watching from above while they moved forward in their lives.  You would be there to love and support them from the other side.  You would share in their happiness and successes.  And guess what?  That is EXACTLY what they want for you!

If you are facing your first holiday without someone you love do not be afraid to let people know what you need.  Do you want to be alone?  Do you want people around?  Do you want to do something different to make the day easier?  People do not handle death well.  They don’t always know what to say or do, you need to let them know what is best for you.

And finally for everyone who has ever lost someone, here is a message for all of you.

This is a message from up above, I can not be with you but I send all my love.

From the moment you awake to the moment you return to sleep, it is the memory of me I wish you to keep.

It may seem like I am so far away, but in your heart I will forever stay.

And just when you think you can not get through, it is the love we shared that will come shining through.

So talk with me often and watch for a sign, cause I am forever with you in your heart and mind.

Lisa Ann

10 thoughts on “The other side of the holidays

  • December 8, 2010 at 9:48 pm

    Hi daddy, well its only been 39 days yet it seems like a life time u were and always will be my best friend my hero and most of all my daddy i am getting stronger day by day but with alot of help from my prayers to you and everyone with you on the other side . lisa ann has been so great on helping me on my journey to my healing she is a god send… merry xmas and im doing all your little jokes to each here on earth…lov ya “daddys girl” 43 years still goin

  • December 8, 2010 at 9:52 pm

    You my friend are an inspiration! I am so proud of you and I KNOW your dad is as well! I am sending you all my love, positive thoughts and prayers!

  • December 9, 2010 at 12:53 am

    Hi Baby Jack~ your daddy and mommy miss you very much and send you all the love we can give, and dad be sure to take of my little boy, hold him and sing to him until I get there. Love you both and miss you very much.

  • December 9, 2010 at 9:37 pm

    Thank you so much for sharing!

  • December 12, 2010 at 3:10 pm

    O’ Kevin, we all miss you so much. Send your love to your Father and Mother, they miss you so. Please talk with Michael he needs you. I love you and miss you, and think of you often.

  • December 27, 2010 at 12:22 pm

    Hey mom its been difficult since you have past on, the family has broken up. I miss so much having family for xmas holidays, Not having children of my own and just Jim and I its very lonely. I left you some chocolate at the cemetary. hope you enjoyed it!

  • December 27, 2010 at 1:05 pm

    I am so sorry for your loss but I am sure your mom appreciates all you do to remember her and keep her a part of your everyday life!

  • March 6, 2011 at 9:13 am

    You are so right Lisa, my Pop sends me signs he’s around a lot. Usually a cardinal in the feeder or the bird clock will sound with my favorite bird song. Funny thing is, the batteries are dead so how does the clock work! It’s the magic from the other side and it warms my heart every time it happens 🙂

  • December 25, 2013 at 10:30 pm

    Lisa, thank you for this post especially the poem. This was the first Christmas without my son, Dan, and having lots of family around helped me get through it.

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