When someone needs a roommate many times they will place an ad on line or in their local paper.  The ad is most likely going to describe the space available for rent and how much it will cost.  However, many times the ad will also describe the type of roommate someone is looking for. Maybe they will list things like: positive, neat, responsible, etc.   After all who wants to be roommates with a negative and nasty person.  I think you will agree that if YOU were looking for a roommate you would prefer or maybe even insist your roommate was a positive and uplifting person.  You would want someone who could be  a great friend, a supportive and inspiring person!  That being said, then why is it we rent out the space in our head to negative and sometimes even abusive roommates?

Think about your mind and all of the thoughts that go through your head in a day.  Think about all the good and bad things you tell yourself on a daily basis.  I call it “negative self talk”.  One minute we are complimenting ourselves on a job well done and the next minute we are telling ourselves all the things we think we have done wrong. The space in your head is the most important space you will ever rent!  The thoughts you allow in that space set the tone for your daily life!

Life is not always fair and quite frankly sometimes it is beyond difficult!  We can not always control the action of others or the situations we find ourselves in.  It is during these times that the “negative self talker” tries to slip in.  It says things like “this is all your fault”, “you should have known better”, “you deserve this”, “you are being punished”, “you are not worthy” and on and on and on.  The good news is once you are aware of your “negative self talk” you can control it.  Once you are aware of it you can boot the negative abusive roommate renting space in your head and rent that space to a positive, uplifting and wonderful roommate!

Now that you are aware that there is a squatter (negative self talker) taking up space in you head what can you do about it? Well it is time to evict!  So let’s begin your eviction process, shall we?  It is as simple as 1, 2, 3.  One, become aware of how often the negative self talk is going on in your head.  Two, acknowledge the negativity and think about if you would talk like that to one of your children or your best friend? Three, every time you hear the negative self talk IMMEDIATELY stop and replace that talk with a positive.  Example: “I am doomed to be miserable the rest of my life, happiness is for other people”…replace with….”I am in a transition in my life, my circumstance do not need to effect my experiences”.  If you follow these three simple steps your unwanted negative self talker will be evicted in no time at all!

The world is going through huge shifts and changes.  As a result a lot of people are finding their lives in absolute and complete chaos.  Unfortunately we can not always instantly change our situations.  The only thing we can do is figure out a way to get through it and allow it to unfold.  Ridding yourself of the “negative self talk” is a great place to start!  And please remember that you are not alone!