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images (8)I am becoming increasingly convinced that social media and the “send/enter” button is slowly destroying humanity. Seriously!  Now don’t get me wrong I love my facebook and texting!  I love to zip onto facebook to share funny things I see or to keep in touch with people.  However, I find I can not spend too much time scrolling through my newsfeed as the negativity and craziness boogles my mind.

First, of all I think we all agree that facebook (for example) is NOT an substitute for a good therapist!  Honestly, I cringe when I read the post people put about their kids personal problems or how they trash their ex’s.  Really people can we just try to pull it together!  TRUST me I am from NY and I am Italian so I get “anger” (thats a joke please don’t send me hate mail if you are from NY or Italian….lol).  When you are angry and frustrated it is very easy to say not so good things in the heat of the moment but seriously……where are your filters?  There are certain things that should just stay in your thoughts!  Does anyone remember my 24 hour rule?  Remember you are not suppose to REACT to things in the moment.  Imagine if everyone followed the 24 hour rule before attacking or responding back.  What a more peaceful world we would live in! But as usual I digress.

download (6)Um…I think maybe why you kid isn’t speaking to you is because you just totally motified them by sharing their private personal stuff on social media cause you were mad at them.  Maybe you can’t find a job cause your perspective employer went on your facebook (YES they do that) and they weren’t to impressed with your weekend partying photos.  Maybe just maybe the reason why your business is struggling is because the average person finds your negativity and constant victim mentality a little too much for them.  And then there are those political posts……oh boy I am not even going to touch that topic!

So if you find that your life is never going the way you want it to and you absolutely can not figure out why you may want to read your facebook page!  Look at the tone of the things you post.  Remember you are a magnet!  You attract EXACTLY what you put out!  When you are constantly complaining, you will get more to complain about. Now I am not saying that you don’t really have something to complain about.  What I am saying is complaining about it just keeps you in that energy.  Let me give you an example:

Pete loses his job.  Everyday he rips apart his boss and co-workers to everyone and anyone who will listen.  He posts negative things on facebook, he constantly brings up the injustice he felt was done to him and he even brings it up in job interviews.  The result, Pete stays unemployed for a very very long time!

George loses his job.  He decides that in spite of how devestated he is he is not goign to allow this to bring him down.  While looking for a new job he uses he down time to do some things that he has been wanting to do.  He posts his “downtime” adventures on facebook always staying positive and upbeat.  He doesn’t dwell on what he feels in an injustice as he knows that will not get him where he truly wants to be.  On interviews he doesn’t mention one word about how he feels about the loss of his job.  The result, George gets offered several jobs and gets to pick the one he feels is best for him!

Oh and by the way…there is no Pete or George.  I just made up the scenarios:)   So if your name is Pete and you can’t find work…it is a coincidence….please don’t email me…LOL

download (7)Now if you are one of these people you most likely quit reading a few paragraphs ago.  Some of you maybe reading this thinking “how can I send this to negative person I know without them getting mad at me”.  Others of you maybe thinking “I am very positive so this doesn’t appy to me”.  Regardless of which one you are this is priceless information.  If you are the one doing it…STOP IT!  If you know someone who is doing this then you need to make sure you are not taking on their negativity and feeding into their pity party.  If you are the positive person and this does not apply to you then congratulations!  You are awake! You get it!  Now you need to pay it forward. You need to share what you know with others.  You need to help others (who want to change…no forcing change on people). Remember your job is to share your positive light…not blind people with it.

So bottom line…..if you don’t like what you are attracting…take a hard look at what you are putting out there.  No, it is not easy to look at yourself. TRUST ME…I know! I have had to do it more times than I care to admit.  Funny thing is until I did it I truly had no idea how negative I was being!  It is so darn easy to fall into that negative place. Sometime you don’t even realize your are doing it!  Luckily I have plently of peeps around me who will immediately call me out if they see me falling into any old patterns of negativity!

download (8)Hugs!  And remember….I love ya all enough to tell ya like it is and make you see that sometimes the thing standing in your way just might be you!  I know you truly deserve all the best….so I want to help you get there!  Now get off the computer and go do something wonderful and positive for yourself